‘He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God’ –(Micah 6:8).
Seems so simple. Growing up in the 1970s, we played with all the neighborhood kids. We didn’t choose who moved into our neighborhood or who went to our school. We made allowances for ability and age. We just wanted to play. Everyone got to play–even if they weren’t very good at the game. Unless they cheated, played dirty, or flaunted how good they were and didn’t give others a chance. We all belonged. We all brought strengths and weaknesses to the game. We all accepted each other–even when we lost and disappointment tempted us to blame our teammates or ourselves.
Then we grew up. Winning became the only measure of success. And we brought that attitude into church. We need to be right. We need to prove we’re the best. And we do that by creating a loser. I think we can all name a few losers in church systems these days. Why have we decided to make them losers? Because we can. Because they’re an easy target. Because they showcase our strengths. Instead of using our strength to protect them, we shame them. Instead of including them, we reject them. Instead of recognizing our own weaknesses that need another’s strength, our bloated ego bullies them into hiding.
It’s time–past time–to grow up into mature adults who live like we did as children. I haven’t found a passage in the Bible that tells us to win people over by proving their beliefs wrong, to shame people into obedience to our way of living, or to reject whole groups of people because how they live before God makes us uncomfortable.
There will come a day when we no longer have the power privilege. Do we want them to treat us the way we’ve treated them? Seriously, think about that thought. Do you want others to use the Bible to justify rejection, loathing, one-dimensional defining of you?
It’s not too late. Instead of sustaining an Us vs. Them culture, we can play on the same team. We don’t have to agree with each other on everything. We just have to play fair. We have to include even the ones we don’t think can ‘win.’ We have to realize that we’re just kids on the playground. And God gets to figure out who plays on the team.
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